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What your sex dreams REALLY mean: Psychologist decodes

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  • Psychologist and dream expert, Dr. Keith M. T. Hearne analyzed the most common unspoken dreams people admitted to having in a new survey
  • New study has revealed that just under half of the world dream about sex regularly
  • Showed 15% dreamt about sex with someone inappropriate, such as a coworker 

Sex in dreams

We dream for around two hours each night, and most are actually about mundane things. However, strong emotions sometimes intrude. We can anticipate that the topic of sex, in particular, could be driving these powerful dreams.

Of course, many sex dreams simply reflect a wish for sexual gratification, but sometimes they are so illogical – you may really dislike the person (from real life) with whom you are making love in the dream. 

This factor, of strangeness, points out that the dream is not about what it seems to be. A switch has occurred.

Dream of sex with your ex

In a relationship a sort of addictive sexual behaviour builds up over time. In fact, it is a powerful activity that promotes emotional and psychological closeness. 

Should the relationship fail, those features of the initial sexual attraction can’t easily be dropped, and dreams can regress us to earlier times. 

So it is not unusual for people to experience this dream for a while after a relationship, especially if there is sexual frustration.

Someone of same sex

Sexual orientation is more open to discussion these days, so in some cases these dreams may be developments of those conscious thoughts.

But in dreams there is so often a deeper level to consider. The ‘other person of the same sex’ may actually be representative of you, the dreamer. 

Dreams can provide us with wise insights, such as – are you too self-centred? Or do you need to love yourself more, and build self-confidence? Meditation on the topic of oneself may enable you to attain self-truths.

Dream of sex with someone in public

Some people are highly exhibitionistic, and the dream-world is a safe place for such fantasies, but that superego part of you is more likely to be intervening to warn that you’ve been exposing yourself recklessly about aspects of your life and made yourself vulnerable to social criticism. 

Nudity is one thing, perhaps revealing a wish to be free, but public sex may indicate a neurotic desire to shock other people – an extreme attention-seeking behaviour.

Dream of sex with someone you dislike in reality

Dreams progress along visual and verbal associative pathways, and the overriding law of all dreaming is that what you think you will then dream. 

What happens here is that the dream’s pathway at some time leads to a dream thought, about the person you dislike. That point acts as at trigger. 

Feeding on the negative emotion, the dream thought comes into metaphorical play.

Being cheated on by your partner

Sometimes such a dream is indicating to the dreamer that cheating is indeed happening. 

The subconscious is sensitive to subtle clues (e.g. pheromones) that go unnoticed consciously, and the dream is just about the only channel of communication to the consciousness. 

But equally, a person who is lacking in trust may project that issue into their relationship. 

If the dream occurs in each relationship, the cause is more likely to be the latter.

Sex with a colleague

It is not unusual for human beings to be attracted to each other. 

In the generally friendly long-term situation of a work-place, little fantasies and flirtations often occur. 

Most dreams are about our daily lives, and in REM (dreaming) sleep, a main feature is that males have a full erection, and women experience clitoral engorgement, so any friction can trigger such a dream. 

Freud would have said that a part of our personality (the Id) which seeks basic gratification, would be responsible. 

In dreams it is safe to happen and can remain unspoken.

Men dreaming of being pregnant

Sometimes, men can feel great empathy with their partner and even experience symptoms of pregnancy. 

So in some cases it is a wish-fulfilment dream. 

Now that the strict bi-polarity concept of the sexes is easing, this kind of dream becomes more comprehensible. 

In the symbolic, metaphorical, language of the subconscious, another possibility is that it positively represents some much-loved and developing project (say, a business idea, or a building plan).

Being naked in public 

The ‘metaphors in motion’ description of dreams often suffices to understand the real meaning. 

In this case, a feeling of embarrassment and shame probably accurately reveals the essential emotion, and the content symbolically displays the cause of the dream. 

The dreamer should focus on what they have done or said to ‘show themselves up’. It may be a rebuke from the unconscious of unacceptable social behaviour. 

If, however, the feeling is of exhilaration, it may represent perhaps a new-found sense of freedom.

Source: DAILYMAIL

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